Worship Ministry – How To Work With Difficult Musicians

One of the reasons why I wrote the Invisible Worship Musician was that I wanted to put an end to worship music clashes forever. Play more? Play less? Is flashy good or bad? Glorifying the flesh or showing the greatness of God?

I cut all those questions at the root by showing:

• What worship ministry is supposed to achieve
• Tried and tested ways of doing it
• How to tell if you achieved it

But let's be realistic; not everyone has read my book, and not everyone agrees with it. So what do you do when you have to work with musicians who don't cooperate with you, who flat-out refuse to play what works and insist on doing things their way instead? Here are some things to watch out for.

1) Remember Respect

Don't get so caught up in getting the music to go the way you want that you forget basic respect. Remember, the musician or singer giving you problems is also a sibling-in-Christ, and so deserves basic respect for that.

1 John 4:10-11 (NIV) - This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.

There are many ways of loving one another. But sarcastic or insulting words are NOT one of them. The LORD is watching you; how do you handle this challenging situation? Make sure that whatever you do or say is something you won't be ashamed to account to God for.

Matthew 12:37 (NIV) - For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.

2) Long-Term or Short-Term?

Is it a long-term or short-term situation? For example, if you are leading worship for a special conference or event, and you are stuck with a quirky musician because he or she is the only one available from the host church, it isn't worth losing sleep over. If you are only leading worship at that church once a month, or the difficult musician is only a temporary substitute while your main one is away on maternity leave, don't sweat it.

You don't have much responsibility for the situation, unless the pastor asks for your help. And you also don't have very much you can do either!

Proverbs 26:17 (NKJV) - He who passes by and meddles in a quarrel not his own is like one who takes a dog by the ears.

But if the problem is a long-term one, you inherited the worship musicians from someone who let the wrong people in, and you have to work with them week after week after week, then this is something you have to take action on.

What you do depends on how much authority you have (are you the leader of the team or just a regular member?) and how much your leader and pastor support your actions. This is a tricky situation, so it is best to work as a team with your leader or pastor on this.

3) Be Patient

No one becomes an uncooperative musician overnight. He or she probably took a long time to build up the bad habits, so it will take time to change them.

It often happens like this: someone has a few flashy displays and people were impressed. So this musician takes this feedback as encouragement to keep on doing more of this, or other stuff like it.

After some time, the playing style and approach has become a strongly held habit. Not everyone has the interest or the time to explore new ways of playing, or to become a musician who can adapt to different situations. They become one-trick ponies, and feel threatened and insecure if you make them think their precious one trick isn't good enough.

So when you are working with them, it is far better to underwhelm them with what you want them to change, than to have them mentally give up on following your instructions.

So give specific pointers and bite-sized tips, such as

• "If you do drum fills during the chorus it throws off my singing. How about doing fills only when I am not singing? Or here's something even better: sing with me, that will help you feel the song."
  
  
• "Let's have our keyboards do complementing jobs, OK? I'll do the rhythm stuff, you do the pads and fills? If we do rhythm together the sound is very cluttered…"
  
  
• "Let me set the tempo for especially the slower songs, OK? I'll use the piano to mark out the counts, stay with me on them."
  
  
• "We need to have less keyboard playing so that the acoustic guitar can be heard more clearly…"

So be patient with any difficult musicians. Take the big-picture and long-term view, which Paul expressed in the following passage:

Philippians 1:6 (NIV) - being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

4) Make them WANT to play with you.

As I said earlier, difficult musicians are often one-trick ponies and they feel very insecure when they suspect their one trick isn't good enough. So they would rather ignore you and keep doing things THEIR way.

But if you can make them WANT to play with you, that will be enough motivation to move them out of their comfort zone. So on your part, make sure you know what you're doing. Make sure you have a decent level of skill with your instrument or voice (whichever you are using) and that you KNOW what you are trying to do with the music. If you have only a vague idea of what you want to hear, how can you expect your musicians to have a clear picture of the sound you want?

Most importantly, make sure you have respect both for yourself and the other musicians. The last thing you want others thinking is that you have great skills but lousy attitude.

Try out these tips and let me know how they go? Be blessed!